My mom, aunt, and mother-in-law have been coming on the weekends to help meal prep for the week and also help look after the littles (2 under 2 years old). My aunt mentioned something in Chinese culture re: the first 100 days after a baby as being a time for healing for the mother. I had heard of this in Korean culture, but didn’t realize it was in my own culture! Apparently, it’s in other cultures as well (see the wikipedia link below). Today, I’m on day 18 postpartum and it’s been a roller coaster of emotions, thoughts, lethargy, soreness, and fatigue.
After reading several of these articles, I definitely think there should be more pampering and healing in Western culture after the arrival of a baby. While I disagree with just sitting around without showers… I do believe in having extra help (house chores, cooking, etc) and allowing the mother to bond with baby without these distractions.
What do you think? Have you hired new help or had family members stay for an extended time to help with chores and cooking so you can focus on bonding with your baby?
Arden is 6 months old! The time flew by… although it didn’t seem like it her first two months of life. She is such a sweet, happy baby who loves to drink her milk (she takes around 30 oz/day). She doesn’t care too much for daytime naps, however, she is a great sleeper through the night once she goes down. She’s still getting up around 4a or so for a feed but then falls right back to sleep. Sometimes, she cries out but it’s mainly bc she was on her tummy and doesn’t quite roll back to her back. She loves jumping around in her jumperoo and playing in her gym with her various toys. She’s getting so strong with her legs and her arms. Her grip strength is really good and she’s getting better with her grasping. She is now purposefully placing her feet to walk in her scooter. We’ve started her on purees. The first one she tried was peas and brown rice and she did not like it. Now, we’re on to winter squash and she seems to like that a bit more. Maybe it’s because the texture and consistency is a bit smoother than the peas. We have our 6 month pediatrician appointment soon and I’m curious to see how much she weighs and how tall she is. I feel like she’s grown a ton in just the last month! She still has just her two bottom teeth. It’s incredible to see the changes taking place in our lil girl.
She got a fever at daycare on August 14, 2018 and Bear picked her up and brought her home. Arden seemed lethargic and fussy and didn’t want to feed. She started developing blisters on her hands and feet and in her mouth. The pediatrician said it was hand, foot, and mouth disease. This has been going on at daycare, so I knew it was just a matter of time before she got it. Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday of this week were pretty brutal as you could tell she was hungry but it was too painful to feed. She slept more throughout the day and woke up several times at night bc of hunger or discomfort. We give her infant tylenol and infant motrin for the first time. She ended up throwing up the Tylenol the first two times we gave it to her. It was a larger volume of medicine than the motrin. After that, we opted to stick with the motrin and give it to her in smaller aliquots — she tolerated this and felt better shortly after and was able to feed. Luckily, she never got too dehydrated or lethargic. We tried to give her pedialyte when she wasn’t taking formula and she didn’t really like that either. But, it’s now Sunday and she really started to turn the corner on Friday/Saturday. It’s so good to have our smiling, happy, active girl back!!
She’s really into textures now. Arden loves to feel materials with her hands and fingers. Everything still goes in her mouth, but that’s ok… that’s part of learning and the sensory feedback. Her upper two teeth are starting to come in (6.5 months old). She loves sleeping on her tummy, esp with her booty up in the air. She still dislikes purees… we’ve tried avocados, peas, bananas, blueberries, winter squash (this has been her favorite so far), carrots, sweet potatoes, peanuts. I tried my hand at making purees at home and it’s been lovely. These two websites: Wholesome Baby Food Recipes and The Vintage Mixer have shared wonderful recipes as well as personal experiences of feeding their babies with whole unprocessed foods made at home. This is my jam (right now).
I’m four weeks postpartum. Back at work full time. The First week completed with Alexia Clark!! It was a great workout!! For the most part, I stuck to the home 30 minute workouts. When I had extra time, I did the home 60 minute workouts. I am NOT disappointed. It’s great that she incorporates full body exercises and her workouts keep my heart rate up (despite what my heart rate watch says!). Update to follow…
Three months have flown by since Arden was born. I started doing Classpass about a month ago to get back into pilates. During my experimentation with Classpass, I found barre classes to be quite tough and intriguing. From the various barre studios around me, I found Studio Barre to be fun, encouraging, girlie, and upbeat. For a good cardio burn, both Cycle Bar and 9 Round were great at keeping my heart rate up!
In about a week and a half, I have to go back to work. Right now, I have mixed feelings about this as I’ve enjoyed my time with Arden. I think the first week will be tough. It’ll be the first time I’ve been away from her for any length of time. Our hospital did a roll out of Epic, which is an electronic medical record — I’m nervous as this will be my first time using it when I go back. I haven’t given an anesthetic in 3 months… this means I need to dust off the cobwebs and put my thinking cap back on. I can only imagine I will be drained with the early mornings and late nights and plenty of mental stimulation. It will be a different kind of tired vs. child-induced tired.
I want to put myself in the best place to handle these stresses. Despite my current passes at my various studios, I will need a home workout to do when I can’t get out of work in time. This led me down a rabbit hole last night of searching for various home workouts and reviews.
I’ve done plenty of home workouts as evidenced here and I appreciate everything it provides. However, how do you keep the workouts fresh and non-repetitive? The P90X series is awesome for a tough cardio and sculpting workout in 30 minutes with great results. But there’s only so many times I can do the same exercises over and over again. Then, I went to Sweat/BBG by Kayla Itsines. This app/workout program got me wedding dress ready in 3 months! This was a fabulous workout that had plenty of cardio, jumps, squats, upper/low/full body, weights, etc. But I had the same problem of repeating workouts. I was getting great results, but I couldn’t stay motivated to do the same workouts over and over again.
Searching for a constantly changing workout regimen led me to Alexia Clark. There was just a little bit on her website describing her workouts, but I wanted more info.
After reviewing all this information, I decided Alexia Clark’s program is the way to go. My classpass/barre pass ends at the end of May. I’m pulling the trigger to start Alexia Clark on June 1. My husband watched a bit of the review video with me and says he would start with me. Now how’s that for motivation?
And this nifty little macro calculator was just what I needed to help me get my diet on track.
Do you have any recommendations or workout programs I should check out?
On Sunday, Feb 11, we welcomed our Mini: Arden! She arrived with a conehead after 27 hours of labor at 10:09pm. She was oriented OP, and I got my epidural at 4cm around 9:30am from one of my colleagues, Shiyin. The epidural was perfect — it was so nice to have to take the edge off the pain. However, because she was OP, I was still having quite a bit of back/bottom pressure from her head coming down and placing a lot of pressure on my tailbone. We tried multiple maneuvers to get her turned, but to no avail. My OB, Dr. Washkowiak, came in on her day off to deliver Arden (that’s a huge deal and wonderful favor from my OB). Around 9pm, she was 10 cm and complete…and it was time to push! After an hour of pushing an OP baby… we met our sweet Arden bug. She was 7lb 3 oz, 21 inches long, and absolutely perfect. She had a great latch, and we started breastfeeding immediately. Of course, it would take almost a week for my milk to come in. We supplemented with formula and breastfed as well as pumped to increase my milk supply. She’s been a wonderful journey so far. We’re learning new things about her and us everyday.